Why have they got their fingers in their ears?

What comes to mind when you hear someone singing off key? (Maybe that’s you ☺) Karaoke night provides an interesting platform that allows anyone to grab a microphone and provide the voice to the music of popular songs. Most are doing it for fun but frequently someone sings so badly off key yet believing they are the next Michael Bublé.

Sometimes those who’ve convinced themselves they have real talent will pursue that dream until they find themselves on stage at America’s Got Talent. We’ve all seen contestants that get booed off the stage midway through their act to their utter surprise.

How can a person can be that ‘off key’ and not know it? One wonders whether they had ever asked their spouse or a trusted friend directly what they thought? Could it be that this ‘self absorption’ creates and fosters blind spots?

At one time or another most of us have eaten humble pie after waking up from some story we were telling ourselves. If these events result in the recalibration of our views and/or actions then in retrospect a little embarrassment might be viewed as a teachable moment.  

On the other hand if the self-absorption is well established it could blind us to the point of becoming oblivious to any of the available signs. Short of putting their fingers in their ears if we are ‘singing off key’ our listening audience typically offers us valuable feedback if not in words themselves then in a variety of body language.  

If our hubris has mothballed our capacity to tune into these clues – we may well be losing the interest and/or confidence of those we frequently communicate with.  

It’s surprising what the difference is when we have the respect of our audience.

Stephen Roehrig
Vice-President, Operations
Intrust Communications Inc.

Postponed – Reboot Your Relationships Workshop

Saturday, May 19, 2018
9 am – 1 pm
Healing Connections Wellness Centre
10548 115 Street, Edmonton

Join InTrust Communications for a relationship reboot. InTrust has created a program that teaches clients how to communicate positively, clearly, and with integrity before conflict arises. This proactive approach to communicating is sure to flow into all areas of your life once you have the knowledge and awareness of clear communication. With our help you gain insight into your words, perceptions and emotions.

Your facilitator, Jacinta Ball, has been helping clients facilitate positive communications for decades. She is renowned for her intuitive warmth and profound communications programs.

This workshop is for those in seasoned, mature relationships seeking to ensure a continued positive connection. You will learn empowering skills to find your balance and restructure your relationship for the next stage.

$225 plus GST

To register, please email: Beth Harding, Workshop Planner at bethhardinginedmonton@gmail.com

Doors: 8:30 am.
Light refreshments served.

Paying Attention as a Means to Success

Intrust Communications - Relationship Services

Quickly:  When was the last time you uttered the words “Well, I didn’t see that coming!”

If you’re like most people (me included..) these typically fly off the tongue when something totally unanticipated surprises us. This could range from something relatively minor like a flat tire or 10 red lights in a row. Inconvenient, yes, but not life threatening.  One could argue that either of these would be unavoidable.

What if the stakes were a little higher? Imagine heading to a critical appointment or staring down the barrel of an important deadline. In these cases, a flat tire or traffic delays might have harsher consequences; unnecessary complications by failing to plan properly.

As unwelcome as these complications might be, there is something even worse that most of us have experienced. An “I told you so” from someone that had warned us in advance is almost worse than being late. This insult to injury can produce an interesting cocktail of frustration, exasperation and consternation.

Some might say these complications serve as an important wake-up call, necessary for re-calibration and adjustment to paying more attention than we had previously. For many others however the default is to remain oblivious to that which is obvious to others. The experience likely then repeats itself without adjustment until the universe steps in and ups the ante a good bit as if to say “you really don’t get it do you?”  

The failure to wake up to the consequences of not paying attention more often than not leads to some impressive train wrecks. Life can be complicated. Regret often sounds like: “If only I could go back and have a do-over…” And while it is impossible to cover off all the bases, there is something to be said about making an honest effort to prevent the unnecessary. Paying attention to potentialities will prevent many unnecessary complications. Paying attention includes purposefully gearing down and taking mindful stock of our circumstance.  This eventually results in a reliable balance in which a flat tire, 10 red lights in a row or any other anomalies are all taken in stride.

Stephen Roehrig
Vice-President, Operations
Intrust Communications Inc.